False beliefs: 7 things to know about love.


“Ruin is a gift. Ruin is the road to transformation.” ~ Elizabeth Gilbert

You have a broken heart. Life feels like a sad Carpenter’s song and quite frankly, you don’t know if you’ll ever be able to come up for air.

At these times we settle into beliefs and perspectives that are untruths (of sorts) pertaining to the “L” word. The operative word here is settling

False believe #1: Love is blind. Nope… it’s really not. We make choices that are simply based on past frame of reference or ideas that we were spoon fed. Reality is always staring back at us, if we really wish to see the truth. Learn to make decisions regarding matters of the heart from your gut and heart center (see 2nd and 4th chakras). It’s your life after all.

False belief #2: The grass is always greener on the other side. Sorry love, that’s a negatory on that one.  At one time or another, everyone has experienced loss, sadness, loneliness or all of the above. Somewhere as you read this, someone is suffering from a broken heart and may be far worse off than you. Step outside of yourself and send out universal light and love for healing. Take a staycation from your own worry and head space.

False belief #3: Your knight/princess in shining armor will show up and rescue you.  Um, actually… not gonna happen. Take Pretty Woman for example, perhaps one of the most moronic 90’s characters Julia Roberts ever played (of course I’ve seen the movie about 50+ times). If you’re waiting for someone to ride in on a horse, please don’t. I promise you there is a 99.999% chance he/she will not cruise up on a horse or in a Ferrari and whisk you away to the Ritz where you’ll live happily ever after.

False belief #4: He or She will complete you.  As much as I wish it was true…. hate to break it to you, no way in hell!  As convincing as Jerry McGuire aka (Tom Cruz) was, it’s up to you and you only to be your most complete package. You are not a diamond awaiting appraisal, know your own net worth. Think circle, as in wholeness + substance.

False belief #5: Money buys love, happiness + security. Check it: Do you know how many miserable and insecure so called “rich people” inhabit this earth? 

False belief #6: If only I met “Big Daddy Warbucks”, all my financial woes would disappear. This may be true in terms of finances, but consider this; you may be trading fiscal security for a whole other list of concessions that you never banked on.  Simple solution: Make your own damn $$$!

On karma as it relates to love:

False belief #7: Karma is universal payback. Karma is not about good and evil or universal retribution per se. There’s fundamental logic in that your thoughts and actions can direct the trajectory of your life course. As you move through life and love, stay mindful to the absence of ego and balance heart + soul. Keep kindness and goodness flowing through thought and action and everything will be solid.

There’s no such thing as being “lucky in love”. It takes a lot of focused intention and the desire to see it through. Believe that you are unequivocally lovable.

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