Dispelling vulnerability + why I love Dr. Brene Brown.


This week’s mantra: "I will surrender to fear and let go."

“Vulnerability is the road to transformation.”

I recently attended the Chase Jarvis Live Show, his guest was Brene Brown. The conversation centered on her research on the subject of vulnerability - the concept of what it means to be both brave and afraid. What can that produce?

Those of us, leading creative lives who are “putting it out there”, know first-hand of that simultaneous feeling of being brave and afraid. For me, if I’m not feeling a healthy sense of nerves or excitement, I know I’m simply going through the motions - in a realm that’s inauthentic. That nervous buzz serves as my trusted guide to help me avoid added filler in my life.

Brene Brown has a transparency that’s refreshingly infectious. She’s an educator/researcher, who majored in the study of social work, turned speaker-gone-viral on TED Talks. She has authored (including self-published) a book on the topic of shame, designed workshops and conducted corporate talks on the subjects of vulnerability, fear and human connection. Brene has been featured and interviewed on Oprah.

Fear for growth’s sake is sustenance, healthy vulnerability - a liberator. 

Pushing through insurmountable fear, going beyond our comfort zone and coming out the other side, is where growth is immeasurable – it makes way for unexpected space clearing and self expansion.

Is there an area in your life where space can be created for you, if so, where is it hiding?

Encapsulating her words: The courage to be vulnerable transforms how we express ourselves in all areas of life.

“Vulnerability is having the guts to show up and be seen with no prediction of outcome....it’s being brave and afraid at the same time.” Her perspective on vulnerability is this; “If you’re not in the arena getting your ass kicked on a regular basis, I am not open to or interested in your feedback. If you’re in the cheap seats, not contributing and not putting yourself out there, your opinion has little to no value.”  

As an artist and creative trying to generate new work, life in the “cheap seats” is unquestionably safe. It’s easy to be the critique in the corner, who speaks of how “it” could’ve been better, or how “they” would have done it. Truth is – it’s that critique’s burning desire to be "out there."

She goes on to say, “When we’re defined by what people think we lose the courage to create. When we stop caring, we lose the capacity for connection.”

A true and powerful statement. It’s your imperative to shine a light and express what you came to this life with; so go do it and take your friend with you. 

Yes love, fear can be an immensely powerful friend indeed.